In the days leading up to your wedding, you no doubt will have a million tasks to complete. From final fittings to guest lists, you’ll have a lot on your plate, so be sure to prepare your home well ahead of time. Whether your home will be used as lodging, a gathering space, or for your wedding, here are some suggestions for creating a welcoming, warm space for your loved ones and friends:
Perk Up Your Outdoor Spaces
These days, it’s so easy and affordable to host your wedding festivities in your own backyard. Many couples even opt to hire an experienced marriage celebrant, like Simon from Simon Says I Do, to perform their ceremony at home. You can rent some chairs, find inexpensive flowers and transform your backyard into a welcoming wedding space for your big day.
If you are thinking of having your wedding at home, or any other celebrations, you should think about building an arbor or pergola, to really give your yard a special touch. Professionally built trellises cost between $...
This weekend I am celebrated my first wedding where I said the monitum and did not cringe inside. Where I didn’t have to include extra words to convey the support the couple and I felt about same sex marriage. Finally, legislation has changed!
The most provocative part of a wedding, until yesterday, was the monitum. The monitum is one of the few compulsory requirements during a ceremony that a celebrant must say at the wedding before the vows to ensure it is legal.
Before this past Saturday, the monitum was:
“I am duly authorised by law to solemnise marriages according to law. “Before you are joined in marriage in my presence and in the presence of these witnesses, I am to remind you of the solemn and binding nature of the relationship into which you are now about to enter. “Marriage, according to law in Australia, is the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.”
No longer will I be embarrassed to say the monitum, as the At...
It is no secret that I love to travel. I love meeting people and I love learning new customs and traditions which makes Australia a great place to live in. And being a celebrant in Australia is even better as the multicultural weddings are rich in cultures and I enjoy delicately blending traditions into a wedding ceremony.
One lovely wedding I conducted was between a Brazilian groom and an Australian bride. This gorgeous couple had met on a cruise ship where they were both working. 4 years, 5 continents and many sea sick tablets later, they married fittingly on a glass boat in Sydney harbour. The groom's family had traveled from Brazil for the occasion. Being on Australian soil (or waters as the case may be), the couple went to great lengths to make the Brazilian family feel welcome.
During the reception, the head table was draped in both Australian and Brazil flag. The DJ busted out some popular Brazilian tunes and the dance floor was littered with green and gold party hats and...
It’s a debate that divides many girlfriends and couples: will you change your last name upon saying I Do? You can either join the feminist anarchist camp and say hells no, or join the traditional conservative camp and sign up. Or are there other options?
The traditional approach is that the woman takes on her husband’s last name. This was because in yesteryear, women were considered property and a marriage was an acquisition of property. Therefore the woman was adopted into her husband’s family and took their family name. Whilst women are no longer property to a man any more than a man is property to a woman, tradition still has it that the woman adopts her husband’s last name.
For some women, having the same last name as your husband is an important unifying step in their relationship. Others would like to have the same surname as their kids, assuming the kids adopt the husband’s last name. 80% of women today in Australia choose to adopt their husband’s last...
This post is nothing original. You can read a myriad of newspaper articles explaining what each political parties stance is on same sex marriage. But here is my two cents worth, for those who may not have the chance to read up before election day this Saturday, but may like to check facebook!!
Tony Abbott made his intentions clear. He was dead set against same sex marriage despite having a lesbian sister who wants to get married. Malcolm Turnbull, the moderate of the Liberals was once full of hope as his personal opinion seemed to be pro legalising same sex marriage. But alas, there has been no further progress. Should the Liberals get elected again, they are floating the idea of a plebiscite.
A plebiscite is a public vote that resembles more of a poll than a referendum because it is not legally binding and doesn't effect the constitution, even if there is an overwhelming majority. It costs a lot of money (we are talking estimates of $160 m...
I saw the production of Fiddler On The Roof a few weeks ago and enjoyed bellowing out the tunes of ‘If I were a Rich Man’ and ‘Tradition’, much to the annoyance of the audience around me. Anyway, it’s a great show, but I couldn’t help but thinking about one of the main themes of the production – marriage.
The main character, Tevye, is an orthodox Jew in a small village somewhere in Russia in the late 1800’s. He has 5 daughters whom he would like to see married off to decent men who will provide for them. A matchmaker is involved and sets up the eldest daughter with an older wealthier butcher, but the daughter pleads with Tevye to let her marry a poorer man with whom she has been friends since childhood. Tevye relents. The second daughter falls in love with an enlightened modern Jew who is involved with the politics of Russia. Tevye relents, because after all, he wants his daughters to be happy and she was marrying a Jew. The third daughter falls in love with a non Jewish...
I’m all for couples determining the style, theme and tone of their wedding. Dress ups, no problem. Traditional white overflowing dress or the sleek black mini, there are no right or wrong ways to conduct your wedding.
A Pastafarian is a member of the Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster (CFSM). This religion is legally recognized in New Zealand, Poland and The Netherlands. It started in 2005 as a satire of religion and the story of creation claiming that the Flying Spaghetti Monster is just as plausible a God as the God in other religions. Its dogma is the rejection of dogma. The Flying Spaghetti Monster created the universe. Some Pastafarians choose to wear pasta colanders on their head as official head gear. Some celebrate Pastover. Oh, and pirates are the original Pastafarians.
Despite the dramas and laborious decisions involved in creating a wedding, it’s actually the easy part of a long lasting marriage. It is (relatively) easy to fall in love, a little harder to take the leap of faith that this person is the 'one', and even harder to make the marriage stand the test of time.
As a marriage celebrant, under the Marriage Act 1961, it is my duty to inform the couple of relationship services that exist in the local area. Some religious leaders have marriage courses or offer counselling services. And while a lot of couples in the 'hopelessly in love' stage may think their marriage is invincible, relationships are dynamic and it doesn't hurt to be prepared, or at least know what services are available to help you should you ever need it.
If I had the one secret to a long lasting marriage, I would probably be a famous counsellor, and not a marriage celebrant! However, there is a new study from the Personality and Psycholo...
I married a lovely couple last week who had an adorable 2 year old daughter together. They wanted to include her in the ceremony and decided the best way was to write combined vows for her, following on from the vows that they had written for each other It was a beautiful touch. So I thought I would share some other ideas on how to include children in the wedding ceremony. However, you are welcome to let your imagination loose as you know your kids best and what is appropriate for them.
- The classic flower girl or ring bearer. For a traditional flavour, you can’t beat beautiful children dressed in their finest (for the moment anyway) walking down the aisle, throwing rose petals or blowing bubbles or even shooting a bubble gun (which I had my nieces use at my wedding) If they are too little to walk down the aisle, perhaps a little push on a bike or a pull on a wagon could do the trick. As for the ring bearer, if you trust the little one, a little box in t...
Wedding ceremonies can be full of rituals and traditions that are commonplace but we often don’t know why our society partakes in them. Why does a bride wear white? What is the purpose of a veil? Was the diamond ring a marketing ploy by the diamond industry? Who the hell invented confetti?
Jewish wedding ceremonies are no exception. Why do we break a glass at the end of the ceremony? Does a Rabbi need to officiate? What’s the deal with the chuppah (wedding canopy)?
I’m afraid I don’t have all the answers. But I did stumble across this great resource for Jewish weddings: A Jewish Wedding Ceremony Guide. It was written by two entrepreneurs in the Jewish wedding industry in USA, although still completely relevant for us in Australia. It explains all the different Jewish rituals, customs and laws from the lead up to a wedding to after the wedding with links for further reading. It also gives egalitarian options and new tr...